21D Fishers – Day 5: Kindred Spirits

Yesterday we talked about how being a community means being relational so tonight we’re going to go deeper into what relationships are supposed to look like Biblically.  As we talk about relationships tonight and over the next couple weeks, we are referring to all the different types of relationships: friendships, family, romantic.

Turn with me to 1 Samuel 18:1-5.

It’s pretty well known that David and Jonathan had a very special friendship.  They both fought for what was right in God’s eyes and both had a great respect for the Lord.  This created a kindred spirit between them.  A deep brotherhood.

Our relationships should also exhibit a kindred spirit.

  • Our relationships should come naturally.
    • The word kindred means a natural relationship or affinity. This is ultimately a natural liking to or for another person.
    • It’s that natural connection or sometimes I like to call it, a Holy Spirit connection – similar personalities, interests, or beliefs. It feels as if it’s a God-ordained and orchestrated meeting/relationship.
    • If you were born into a family then you probably understand there is a natural feeling of comfort and ease being raised in that setting. It may not always stay that way as we get older and begin to take different paths in life but for the relationships we invest in, they should feel natural like those we consider family.
  • Our relationships should be mutual.
    • We see in 2 Samuel 1:26, David reciprocated the brotherhood and kindred friendship with Jonathan. “How I weep for you, my brother Jonathan! Oh how much I loved you!”
    • As we just discussed, a natural relationship should have similar beliefs, interests, etc. These similarities should create mutual investment into a relationship.
    • If both people are Christians and love Jesus, then He should be brought into the conversation by both people.
    • If both people like to go to the movies, then both people should make an effort and investment with the other to go see movies together.
    • Our relationships should not be one-sided nor should one person be putting in all the effort and investment into the relationship all the time. One of my youth leaders told me one time that relationships are never 50/50. They are 100/100.  We should both be giving everything we have to invest into the relationship all the time.

We should love the people we are in relationship with as we love ourselves.

  • Part of being able to invest 100% into a relationship comes from loving ourselves and being able to love the other person just the same.
  • However, the bible calls us to not just love each other as ourselves but to devote ourselves to one another in love and to honor each other above ourselves.
    • Romans 12:9-10
      • “Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. 10 Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.”
    • So how do we honor others above ourselves?
      • Use the spiritual gifts God has given us to help others.
        • Romans 12:6-8
          • We have different gifts,according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your[a]faith; if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead,[b] do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully.
        • Romans 12:13
          • “When God’s people are in need, be ready to help them. Always be eager to practice hospitality.
      • Pray blessings and favor for others.
        • Romans 12:14
          • “Bless those who persecute you. Don’t curse them; pray that God will bless them.“
      • Be humble and give credit where it’s due to encourage and edify.
        • Romans 12:16
          • “Live in harmony with each other. Don’t be too proud to enjoy the company of ordinary people. And don’t think you know it all!”